Seventh-day Adventist YouTuber Justin Khoe, of That Christian Vlogger fame, has a new project called “I’m Listening.” In this series, Khoe tackles contentious issues by sitting down and talking to people with whom he disagrees.
In his March 6 episode, Khoe, who is pro-life, talks with BB, a young Christian mom who is pro-choice. BB shares her abortion experience, why she made the decision she did, what she learned from it, and what she’d like other young women who find themselves in a similar position to know about God’s love for them.
Alisa Williams is the managing editor of SpectrumMagazine.org.
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What if questions are more important than answers? By listening to a story, I see that I cannot imagine all scenarios in which a person would choose to have an abortion, and I do not have access to all questions so there is no way that I can have all answers for all people. Part of my daily prayer includes the phrase, “Lord, make me comfortable with not knowing.”
When folks opposing legal abortion came up with the phrase “pro-life” as an identifier, this was political genius. If one steps back and asks questions, one can see that really being “pro-life” will require more than making abortion illegal. Indeed, this story illustrates the point that making abortion illegal may not be a “pro-life” policy in a broad sense. Of course, other pieces of society can be modified to be “pro-life”—death penalty, childcare, family leave, eldercare, living wages and more.
However, the easiest “pro-life” stance is merely to make legal abortion into a scapegoat and rally the masses to fight against it. This is how we all tend to want to move for societal betterment. We want to identify a problem that we have not faced and whip up a frenzy about how evil and wrong it is. This can happen because we may not know a story to put context to life’s difficult issues. This video gives one person’s story. Thank you for sharing.
I have heard some people say that they wish they had never been born. Sometimes they grow on to having a wonderful life, sometimes they don’t.
I wonder what a discussion would be like if an aborted baby was able to talk and share his/her experience of being aborted. Maybe we will hear that in heaven someday.
Awesome interview…balanced in both perspectives. Thank-you, BB for having the courage to participate and share your difficult story that ends in love and acceptance. Your story will be a hope and encouragement to many who struggle out there in the larger world.
And what about when the father leaves you and you are so out of your little mind you would do anything? Isn’t it comforting to know that I have a safe place to have a legal abortion? I have known countless situations where women have died from septic because of unsafe back alley abortions. Most women are never the same after an abortion, The guilt and shame never goes away. But at least she is still there to care for her other children,
First, for the boy (she said she was 15) involved to threaten to abort her child should have walked out of the relationship as soon as he was out of her sight.
What would he have done? Tied her up and proceed to abort? How else could he have carried that threat?
That should have been a game changer for her and proceed to tell her parents.
Partway into the conversation I was rather floored by the way she was sitting before Justin. Just hope this was a one time posture before a male counterpart.
We are advised that all will all be judge by the clothes we wear that would invite involuntary suggestive thoughts. It is easy to get pregnant with this kind of invitation.
I accept her decision because she wants me too. Unless I missed it, did she ask for divine help? Jesus does give us choices when we choose not to ask Him for help.
No one who watched this interview should feel comfortable with her decision that she could possibly be a role model for other Christian girls.
Jesus said in Isaiah, “Can a woman forget her sucking child, that she should not have compassion on the son of her womb? Yea, they may forget, yet will I not forget thee.”
We did notice with this statement that He is talking about women.
Robert, let me fill you in on some possible scenarios:
"What would he have done? Tied her up and proceed to abort? How else could he have carried that threat?"
Yes, there have been women/girls who have been beaten up so badly that they aborted. They have also been thrown down stairwells and out windows. There have been drownings and “back alley abortions” that are too horrific to describe which leave a female sterile or dead.
"That should have been a game changer for her and proceed to tell her parents."
Robert, unfortunately not every child is born into a family that loves and nurtures it. Not all families are caring and accepting of a unplanned pregnancy…or of the potential mother or father-to-be. It isn’t possible to even discuss a pregnancy in some families that may turn to violence to “solve” the problem.
"Unless I missed it, did she ask for divine help?"
You may have missed that she did not state that when the pregnancy occurred that she was religious or a spiritual person. It’s possible that it was not a part of her upbring.
"No one who watched this interview should feel comfortable with her decision that she could possibly be a role model for other Christian girls."
BB didn’t claim to be a “role model”…she was simply telling her personal story. I don’t know why you feel that none of us should be “comfortable with her decision”- because it was hers to make.
