Complete. Millennial Women Respond to Societal Expectations

This short film, written and directed by two Millennial feminist Adventist women, addresses questions of worth and personhood against societal pressure (perhaps especially felt in religious settings) to be in a relationship.

It features Danielle Baez, Upasana Beharee, Stacey Burcham, Vanessa Marie Dewing, Melissa Effa, Rachel Logan, Alexis Quinn, Hadiyyah Noelle Smith, and Renée Wylder. At a time when women's place in society seems called into question by prevailing political forces, these young voices ring out clearly.

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Bless you, Guy Meets Girl, for this beautiful, powerful, undeniable explanation of what it means to be a woman, in the church and in the world today. This is both thought provoking and condemnation inhibiting at the same time. It opens conversation, but deftly guides the conversation away from dead ends and hurtful battle zones. Keep up the great work and get it out there!!

Just one plea - drop the reference to wine. That will just stop too many Adventists from even considering taking this seriously, and we need EVERY Adventist - male, female, rich, poor, white, black, “liberal”, “conservative”, single, coupled - to HEAR THIS MESSAGE!

The one thing that made an impression on me is when one of the women said “I’ve got better things to do than to prove my worth to you”. Good resolve. AND also note that there is no neccessary need to be determined to “wear the pants”, as it were, in a relationship such as marriage . A woman can be submissive or dominant, whichever mode suits both individuals . The nonnegotiable element in any rerlationship is that neither partner is to be trodden underfoot , and also that at the workplace the woman demands equaly treatment and conditions at the workplace , even if behind doors she is turned on by letting the male adopt a “fake” dominant attitude. I think this tallies well with a christian modus operandi. For example we KNOW that Jesus was married , since the ritual of the bride washing her intended’s feet while he sat at table was a long standing practice of the David kings. However Mary tended to be a bit bossy and harassed Jesus to take up arms against the romans. He woukld not do this, emphasing his role as a SPIRITUAL , not a PHYSICAL warlord messiah. Mary divorced him on this matter and was exiled by the nazarenes(later adopting the name of Christians) to the Herodian estates in France. She carried their third child in her womb (a boy named Joseph, or crown prince, whose descendants married into European royal houses. Despite her strongheadedness Jesus immortalised her memory in the EUCHARIST( SDA communion) ritual .

These young voices do ring out clearly. I won’t argue with that. Ring out like a gong.

Try watching the video without the audio. I see anger and a lot of sneering from beginning to end. I don’t think this is how to mitigate the perceived deficiency of respect and affirmation.

The ladies I have known in my life that possess what these women are demanding, “have it” with grace and dignity. It comes naturally, organically and it’s a beautiful thing.

I suspect that a loving father has a lot to do with it and it starts early on.

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