I think this essay was a very poor introduction to either the question of why we go to church OR to a discussion on sexuality as identity.
“I” am NOT “the church”. WE are the church. All of us. Together. Whatever our sexuality, how ever we or others put labels on us to distinguish one from the another… whether it has to do with our race, color, culture, ethnicity, social status… the only “identity” label that matters as far as our being a part of “the church” is that we are human… a member of the order of created beings that God created, loves, and identifies as members of His Family… living parts of His very body!
As far as our sexuality is concerned, we have so far hardly even touched the surface of the complexity of the issue. And in trying to make “either/or” labels for each of the various types of sexual indicators, we have not merely made sexuality into a much greater “issue” than it deserves, but we have done so in ways that cause people to find their total identity in the label of the day for the way they experience their sexuality.
This is basically wrong-headed… and we… all of us… should resist the practice. NO person should ever BE an “issue”. No person should ever consider himself an issue even to the extent of denying that they are “an issue”.
People are humans… not “issues”… they are to be loved… not labeled. When it comes to matters of sexuality, they may experience the challenges of handling their sexual impulses and basic needs in different ways. But no one, themselves included should ever take their identity from those differences.
I am sorry… and ashamed… that we as SDAs are not leading the way in loving individuals and understanding human sexuality in all of its forms… and in not confusing individuals with “issues” about some facet of individual experience. I would hope that Spectrum could be one of those places where such learning could take place.