It’s very very depressing that attitudes like this seem to be common in a church that should be based on equality and respect especially between men and women. It’s simply not OK, ever, to consider that wives are owned by husbands, or that woman should be subordinate to men. The saddest and most disturbing sermon I ever heard was at a beautiful young couple’s wedding where the (white) pastor / youth director told them that she now belonged to him and had to obey him. Luckily they were so much better than that and have a happy and equal relationship. However, we were so disturbed by the sermon and the impact it could have had on a different couple.
Virtually every wrong towards women is found in different religious systems. It’s salutary to realise that every horrible thing in Margaret Attwood’s A Handmaid’s Tale has actually happened to women and most have been in the context of abuse of power by men in religious structures.
I think the Adventist church can only redeem this attitude clearly by endorsing woman and, belatedly, agreeing to the full ordination of woman. The refusal to do so is shaming this church and empowering men to look down on women.
It’s time to rise up against this evil in our midst en masse and with total clarity of purpose.
It’s only when we work fully together, equally and with total respect that the magic can happen.